We met online on a dating website, after talking online for a month we met. He was handsome, funny, smart and interesting. The first month was amazing, his friends loved me, he thought I was beautiful, and funny. Month 2 brought a 360 degree change in who he was. He stopped calling when he said he would, he stopped telling me I was beautiful, he stopped taking me out with his friends. I thought he met someone else and told him the door was open if he wanted to date someone else, but that he couldn’t date me as well. He swore up and down that he only wanted me but that he was feeling down and that was why he acted differently.
Fast forward to 2 months later, he was withdrawn, barely looked at me, barely talked to me and did not touch me. Chose to play cards with his friends even when we hadn’t seen each other for 2 weeks at a time. One night I went off, I couldn’t help it. I was mean and he said he wanted to talk about everything. I figured he wanted to! — end it, which was fine, because for some reason I just couldn’t do it.
Well the turn out is that he suffers from depression, and repressed BS from when he was a kid. He had been on antidepressants for the 2 worst months of my life and finally broke down and told me that he feels nothing all that time; he hasn’t felt anything since he was a kid. I told him that if he wanted to stay with me that he needed to get some help. He agreed to do it.
The next day I get an e-mail from a friend of his telling me that he cheats on me all the time, has numerous online profiles which he used to meet women, and had many profiles on many dating websites that he met women from regularly. That night he picked me up so we could discuss the e-mail I had received, I opened his glove compartment and an open box of condoms fell out. He swore up and down that they were for emergency purposes!! When I said what kind of emergency he laughed and said well these things happen. Well they do not happen to me. At least not anymore.
Lesson here is to be very careful about who you get involved with over the internet. You never know what is lurking beneath a perfect exterior. This holds true for anyone you meet either online or in person, but it is easier for people to be dishonest or omit information about who they are when you are just reading a profile.